For today’s article I tried to synthesize 15 tips to practice positive education in everyday life and foster collaboration with children.
To help you understand each situation, I chose a typical sentence. I hope this will help. 🙂
Positive education how to should we go about it?
This is the basis for positive education! If a child feels he’s being loved unconditionally, he is able to build himself on a healthy self-esteem. He is ready for life!
Example: “I love you because you are you”
Be a positive example
Children look at us and do as we do. It’s our role as parents to be the best role model. this will help you avoid a lot of unnecessary discussions and reduce opposition/confusion.
Example: “Look, I’ll show you how to do it. “
A child who makes a choice, commits himself to the realization of the following action. In addition, he learns to take responsibility and become autonomous and optimistic. Tip: you should only give your kid 3 choices max.
Example: “What do you prefer: the blue pants or the red shorts? “
If we keep telling our kids what the forbidden things are without explanation, they still do not know what the rules and why they are there. To go along with the two previous points (example and choices), rules established in collaboration with our kids are positive landmarks. To adapt according to the evolution of the child, the parents, the environment, …
Example: “Do you remember the rule when you come home? Yes, that’s it, we remove our shoes so as not to soil the floor! “
Playing is the best learning technique in the world! When we mimic a grumpy bear or decide to walk backwards, the challenges of everyday life become immediately more fun! Furthermore, children have a fertile imagination so do not skimp on dramatization.
Example: “Do you hear the toothbrush? it just said that it is bored and that it would love to shine some teeth. Do you think we can help? Are there some teeth to brush around here? “
Routines are like safety nets for children. They reflect the habits to adopt to make everyday life easier. Certainly, a day should not be a sequence of routines because it would become monotonous. But at key moments, routines are essential and effective: at sunrise, for meals, at bedtime, etc.
Example: “Where are we in the evening routine? Pajamas: OK Shower: OK Dinner: OK Evening story: let’s go! “
A child is not able to regulate his emotions autonomously. He needs us, adults, because we are normally equipped with a mature brain (including the prefrontal cortex whose full maturity occurs around 21 years). To guide the child in regulating and understanding his emotions, there is a simple reflex: put into words the emotions we see. This allows our kids to put words on their feelings and facilitate the work of the prefrontal cortex to soothe the amygdala in the brain.
Example: “The situation is hard to live. You feel a bit angry, don’t you? “
Affection and cuddles are vital for us, humans and this throughout our existence. They also contribute to brain development and the regulation of emotions.
Example: “Come in my arms. We will do a magic hug. I love you. I’m here. “
Children have a huge energy reserve. They need to move. Better, moving around makes learning easier! We need to offer them the opportunity to let off steam and preferably outside.
Example: “What if we went cycling in the forest? “
In our society, boredom is pointed out and constantly pushed back by the digital solicitations … Nevertheless, the brain needs these moments of boredom to create, to memorize, to dream, … Then, let’s slow down and show the children the benefits of the boredom and non-action.
Example: “I propose to draw your boredom on a sheet. Take as long as you want to do it. “
Listening to music, singing, dancing, … music is a joyful setting in education. You can learn multiplication tables by singing, dancing, tidying up your room, listening to classical music to calm down, playing an instrument to develop your creativity, …
Example: “And hop, let’s go for the ABC song! “
Pleasant emotions accelerate children learning mechanisms. Smiling and joking around are golden! Another particularity: Smiling is retroactive. This means that seeing someone smile triggers joy, just as happiness makes you smile. Finally, remember that smiling is contagious! And how can we not smile when being positive about our children’s education.
A simple paragraph will not suffice to extol the merits of reading. In addition to the basic aspect of vocabulary enrichment, books help cultivate empathy and the art of thinking. They also offer moments of sharing and complicity between parents and children. They are also fantastic tools of differentiation and simulation of reality. An excellent preparation for everyday experiences!
Example: “What would the hero of your book do in this situation? “
Letting go is not carelessness. It is about nurturing confidence in the child and his abilities.
Example: “I trust you and your sister to find a solution to this problem. “
Live rather than possess
Positive psychology has shown that owning objects does not make you happy in the long run. What matters are the experiences. It’s the same for children.
Example: “I understand that you want to have this toy. What would you do with it? You mean you’d like to have a toy flying? Can we build one perhaps? Or draw wings on a cardboard, cut them out and stick them on one of the toys that you have in your chest. What toy might like to fly? “
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