What is positive discipline?
Positive discipline is the first and most important building block for a healthy relation with our kids.
Like it or not kids are going to misbehave, but that doesn’t mean that they are bad kids!
Positive Discipline (or PD) is a discipline model used by schools, and in parenting, that focuses on the positive points of behaviour. It is based on the idea that there are no bad children, just good and bad behaviors. Good behaviour can be taught and reinforced while weaning the bad behaviors without hurting the child verbally or physically. People engaging in positive discipline are not ignoring problems. Rather, they are actively involved in helping their child learn how to handle situations more appropriately while remaining calm, friendly and respectful to the children themselves. Positive discipline includes a number of different techniques that, used in combination, can lead to a more effective way for parents to manage their kids behaviour, or for teachers to manage groups of students. Some of these are listed below.
What should you do?
1. Be consistent: Always apply the same rules, children need a ritual and consistency otherwise they will think they can bend the rules.
2. Be calm and brief: Use a soft but firm tone, and avoid lengthy lectures.
3. Be a good role model: Your children learn from you, so if you don’t want them to do something you shouldn’t do it yourself.
4. Discipline right away: You should always discipline your kids right there, right then. Even if you are in public, don’t wait till you get home.
5. Let some things slide: Bad behaviors were not created equal. Let some things slide, but address the more important ones.
6. Be reasonable: Don’t expect your children to sit quietly during a 2 hours meal a the restaurant.
7. Positive reinforcement: Don’t just scream and yell when they don’t behave, but praise positive behavior. If you want to see more of a certain behavior, the best way to go is to respond to the kid’s craving for attention and praise them it.
8. Tell your children that you love them: Even after scolding them, remind your kids that you love them. Hugs and kisses are always good.
Until next time!